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Carrying the Load In Relationships

I don't think anyone goes into a relationship thinking,

they want to become this nagging, ragging crazy person, that's far from it. For the most part, I believe all of us seek love and understanding. Hoping that with that you will receive respect, a sense of security and an open line of communication.

Relationships take work, it's not like the fairytale stories we believed in when we were little where you ride off into the sunset living happily ever after. What a load of crock!!! 

In relationships, there should be some give, take, compromise, respect, clear communication,  intimacy and a deep connection. One person shouldn't feel as if they're doing most of the work themselves. They can go from expressing their feelings in a loving way hoping the other party will validate what they feel but if this is a continuous cycle, that person can begin to feel taken for granted, feeling sadness and frustration which leads to anger. Then the other party starts to wonder why this once sweet, loving person has now become depressed and angry, wanting to end the relationship.

As the saying goes, "a woman will treat a man the way she wants to be treated but then she will begin to treat him the way she treats her".

Think about that for a moment.

Night time is not for Inspiration..


One of the landscaping lights shine brightly outside our bedroom window as night has taken over the day.

Gazing at the time showing on the right hand corner of my laptop, I notice that its a little after nine and all is quite within the house.

Well, somewhat as my husband lays next to me softly breathing which I hope doesn't turn into loud snoring which sometimes he does.

Laying down but propped up by my pillows, with earphones over my ears playing soothing zen music, I try to think of something witty to chat in regards to marriage, being a mother or a glam-mother (grandma) all while trying to concur the world as I try to successfully run an organized and smooth household.

Hey, a girl can dream, right??!!

Anyway, I'm sitting here trying to come up with something witty, profound and educational regarding my life and my experiences but my brain just wants to go to sleep.

Which could be the result of the zen music lulling me to sleep.

Anyway today, I just pondered in my thoughts, drifting in and out of consciousness trying to unblock my creativity. I find it interesting how one can come up with ideas for others but seem to hit a brick wall when trying to come up with ideals for themselves or maybe it's. the time of day and my brain isn't feeling the need dole out any thought provoking words.

Oh well,  maybe tomorrow I'll be hit with some type of inspiration but for now, I'll just lie my head upon my pillow, close my eyes hoping I'll drift off into dreamland. 



Meditational Escape

So much noise and chaos surrounds us, even sometimes within our homes.  Often, we seek a place of refuge, hoping to find inner peace amongst the sanity.

For me, I like to get lost within my very own Zen room that's located next to my makeshift closet which houses most of my clothes and shoes in which didn't fit in our adjacent bedroom closet. I guess, one would say, the closet just wasn't big enough for all my things.

My Zen room provides me with my quiet time, I time to reflect and establish inner peace after dealing with everyday challenges.


Yeah, thinking about it.


It has been a bit hectic dealing with so many things, that I have not been able to see straight.

It is like I have been flung onto this crazy rollercoaster, up and down, whipping side to side and it has been difficult to take a moment and meditate on my thoughts.

There was a moment where I had to literately get myself a hotel room for the night just to get away from the madness to clear my head and comfort my soul. Which is something I suggest to all women who feel a bit overwhelmed with family, work, and everything in between because let us face it, we tend to take on entirely too much!!! We need and we must take care of ourselves emotionally and spiritually from time to time in order not to fall completely apart!!!!

For most of us, we are the glue that holds everything together and that’s how God and the universe (I am spiritual, so I tend to use both) made us.

My current journey has been a very interesting one filled with both stress and excitement and with that I have grown, and with growth things blossom.

As things blossom, my husband and I continue building a stronger foundation for us and our children continuously thanking our lord and savior as we walk in his grace.

Granted, it has not always been easy, but through the good and bad I take a deep breathe and say to myself, “God is good, all the time”.

Family Entertainment

Our Buttercup entertaining herself



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